Contact / No Contact

The other day I was wondering how I have changed !! I remember in my bachelor days (READ BSc DAYS ), I could spend hours on the fone talking (rather as we call "Bhat mere") with a lot of people .. some friends some just colleagues , some seniors some juniors. Rather I would love to call up people and knock them , when I realised that I am loosing contact with them !

Naturally when I count the number of people who were in my "circle of friends / acquintences / senior / junior / non-of the above etc etc etc " in knew then .... I find that the number has dwindled gradually over the years.

But ask me if am worried about this .... and I will say , I feel better now !!
I feel its human nature ... as you undergo the transition from school ... to college .. to professional life ... you tend to "loose "people on the way .. rather the better word is " select". You select those who you know , can be there for long .. those who wont mind if you don't call or talk to them for days !! After all its not possible to maintain a huge number of people in your "good contact list" when you are professionally occupied. Now-a-days I don't even feel like calling up or even contacting people online, just for socialising (although i have to do it sometime for reasons which are complicated ). Thats because I am happy with my small circle of friends ...... Its correct that "good things come in small packages"

Disclaimer : Blogging for me , is just a way to express my ideas/views and feelings, and not to impress anyone with unfathomable language and classical English. So if you expected this to be a literary gem , then am sorry for the disappointment.
AND this post is not meant to offend anyone.

Oh ! Kolkata !

Incident 1 : some days (weeks?) back there was a very moving story in almost all the dailies circulated in kolkata .... The incident was the brutal beating of a lady by her inlaws. Infact the lady was in Kolkata Police (Sub Inspector if I remember Correctly)!! The reason was the age old family feud and dowry issues . She was tied to her bed , and marcilessly beaten by her brother-sister-mother in law and may be by other members !!

Incident 2 : This may not be a single incident , but this is the almost regular killing of men - women - children , by a bunch of psychotic Kolkata bus drivers .

Incident 3 : .. well if you ask me the date and time when this happened .. or even the newspaper that reported it .. I wont be able to answer .. but .. trust me .. this happened sometime back , and it happens every alternate day in kolkata and elsewhere in the country . I think it was reported a few months back how a 22 year old girl was burned to death for falling in love with another guy ,despite being married !! ... it happend in the city ! and then there was this sick shop owner who attempted to rape a 9 year old gal !!!!

and now lets come to the latest issue ... the very hot "Rijwanur death ". I find everyday that someone says something about it ! Be it politicians (that's nothing new),writers, poets , artists, women right activists ,students... and the innumerable intellectuals of the city !!! They are staging dramas, painting graffitis,reciting poems and doing everything they can , to make sure that its recorded by the spice thirsty media !!! I feel disgusted to see this .. and in my perspective its "pseudo-intellectualism" .

I would like to ask those people, who are shouting now for rijwanur, where were they when all these above incidents took place !!!! where were you guys when a child was raped , a lady was tortured or even that girl was burnt ! What happend to your humane feelings then ????
So is it because Rijwanur case involves some glamor , a scandal involving a rich businessman , and the very spicy hindu-muslim marriage issue .. that you guys have suddenly become active !!

I sometime feel like deleting these bunch of pseudo intellectuals from the face of the city !!

Why the heck should I care !!!!

.. Why the heck should I care !!!! ......

This question has been haunting me for a long time now . It specially resurfaces whenever , every morning I open the online version of the good old Anandabazar Patrika (or as a matter of fact any news paper of that catagory). The "News" are few .. and there are a lot of "incidents" reported. Incidents which I sometime feel, are not even worth mentioning in the most widely circulated daily of our state ! After all what good will it do to you to know that someone killed his/her son by cutting his throat ! or how it would help the public conscience, if you report the sad (brutal) end of a triangular love story !....

.. Gradually I realise that may be its the reader who wants such news. But ask me ... and I will tell you .. its not at all a good feeling to look at the darker side of my homeland , sitting 1000s of miles away!! ..
A journalist friend had once told ... "Barbarism sells .. be it in sex,love ,life or even relationships" !!!.. But I feel its too high a price they are paying for it. After all you have to trade your logical reasoning, humanity and conscience, to find spice out of the most pathetic incidents in someones' life !!

The question again comes back .. "Why the heck should I care !!!! " .... but I cant help it ... it makes me sad ...